Why He Won't Talk About Committment

So you meet a great guy. You see each other almost every day for a solid month; you know he's into you and you are into him too. You've kissed and maybe even taken it to the next level physically, but it seems stuck there.

You're wanting to take it to relationship status; and he seems to be ok with where it's at, or at least hasn't said anything about progressing towards establishing a committed, dating "only you" relationship.

Many people say to wait, and don't rush a man into commitment or you will scare him away by even bringing up the topic. 

I think this idea needs to be stopped, because women are often left feeling used and stuck in a dating relationship that may (and most often) won't progress because nothing is said.

I do agree that men can be easily scared off by the talk of commitment but there may be a variety of factors at play. First ask yourself, is he really ready for a relationship based on what you know about him? (Is he independent, financially secure, career/stable work in place, close relationships outside of you?)

If these things are in place, and you've been dating steadily and are sure you and him feel similarly, share how you feel!

- Let him know- " Hey, I like you, and I'm wanting a relationship."
- If you are interested in a relationship with the goal of marriage and family- "Hey, I like you, and I'm wanting a relationship, and I'm interested in having a family someday."

If these are too direct, and seem uncomfortable for the current situation, you can ask in a different way.
- "What are your top priorities right now?" "Where do you see yourself in 5 years from now?"

I can tell you, this honesty and vulnerability can be a little nerve-wracking, but it's better to find out sooner, rather than waiting around for him to break your heart. Sometimes men also need a little bit of pressure- it lets him know how you feel about him too.

If you are feeling unsteady about the connection, he's probably unsure too. Men are creatures of action, and to be very honest about this, if he hasn't made it clear to you that he wants to be exclusive or take it to the next step within a couple weeks of dating, he's most likely not ready to.

It is much better to find this out up front, rather than waiting to find this out later.

The right man for you will be willing to discuss it, give an appropriate answer, and commit to a relationship. (Actions!)

Your needs are important too! Share how you feel, and if you feel he is dragging his feet on commitment, call him out on it (nicely of course). He's either willing to commit or he's not, and if he's not, he's not the right guy for you.